Christian Dating Guide

age difference in relationships ... Christian perspective?

secular U.S. has a whole range of ideas about what is acceptable in terms of age difference and dating ... "anything goes between two consenting adults" to magic formulas like "1/2 your age plus seven" to "thats creepy and soooo wrong" for even a small age gap. I generally don't care what most people thing, but I also do not like not to attract attention. most women my age just seem like a poor fit. simply put, it seems like they have a different view of marriage than I do. divorce, sex before marriage, lack of desire for family or committment, priorities centered on money on status ... not qualities I share or want in a wife. I am in my early 30's looking for a younger woman (18-25) who is mature but still fun and flexible, is a practicing Christian, and sees marriage as a beginning and not an end. by 18 you should have the foundations of your life figured out ... the rest is an adventure. Do practicing Chirsitans see my point or do they have the same age gap issues? you're right ... I am not excluding anybody ... just expanding my horizons and going outside of my "comfort zone" so to speak. nobody has just "come along" (just waiting patiently is not all bad advice but you sometimes have to be a bit more proactive)

Public Comments

1. As a Christian, I don't see age-gaps as a problem generally. However; I do think you're limiting your 'criteria.' What if that woman you describe does come along, but she's also 30 or 35? I wouldn't write off anyone because of their age.
2. I am a Christian and I think that 18 is way too young. Marriage should be far from their mind at that age, to further ones education should be more of a priority. I think between 23 and 25 is good, but why is it such a priority to you to want someone young? Would you not want someone more closer to your age? By then the person has their life going for them more, like they have lived on their own, finished their education and have worked and by that time they are more set to be thinking about marriage. Too much of an age gap can be difficult. If you did find and 18 year old and you being in your early 30's, I'm going to guess, 32, then that's a 14 year age gap! When she becomes 32 you'll be 46! When the years go by, the age difference becomes an issue. Just think, when she's 46, you'll be 60 and so on. One just has to look at the bigger picture. Ten year difference would be my max.
3. im a christian and love doesnt prefer an age and if you want you can always meet sum1 young. though you shouldnt limityour choices to just young girls.