Christian Dating Guide - relationship problem... christian advice preferred.?

relationship problem... christian advice preferred.?

I'm 15, im a christian and i met this guy at my church. after a few months we started dating since then we've broken up and gotten back together about 5 times. we were broken up for about a month and we had sex. it was a huge mistake and ive repented and everything and we havent done it since, im aware that he however, doesnt regret it at all. and he even thinks he should stop going to church. we got back together rigth after we had sex and a few days ago he said "what has God really done in my life?" and has said stuff like "its impossible to know that God truly exists you can only hope" i dont know if im wrong here for getting upset with him about those things.i know God exists because i feel him in my life my life hasnt been fine and dandy since i devoted myself to God but that hasnt changed a thing in my faith. the obvious answer would be to break up with him but i love him way too much to think i could. I just need help because i dont know what to do anymore...any advice? i should also say that we argue about the stupidest things everyday. we see eachother and hangout every day and i love hanging out with him... most of the time. he's said he still believes in God but that he just doesnt think church has done anything for him. he hasnt broken up with me we've either agreed on a break or ive broken up with him. i just cant bring myself to break up with him after everything we've been through together.and yes, i know it was a mistake to have sex and NO im not still doing it. and yes he has respected that.ive told him before that tehre are only so many times he can say sorry before it doesnt work anymore but he responded to that by not apoligizing when hes wrong anymore. hwe just waits for me to go to him and act like everythigns fine...

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do whatever god instructs you to do. it is bestand if he says to break up, wheather you want to or not, do for the greater good.
Your relationship is too turbulent to be healthy and foster love. He questions your faith in God, which shows a lack of respect for you. I know that you feel love for him, but lean on your family, friends, leaders in your youth group to help you make a clean break. You don't need this kind of negative influence in your life.
Well, he is very unlikely to turn Christian. If this is a really big issue for you, and you aren't willing to listen to what he says and become an atheist, and all that stuff he says really bothers you... it sounds like it's not going to work out.
im christian too and i believe in god but if he doesnt and he broke up with you 5 times its not worth it
Fights over religion never work. I'm not Christian, sorry, but I was poised to marry one. I was willing to do anything he asked of me except convert... go to church, bible study, etc, and all I asked was that he not disrespect my other beliefs or keep me from my own religious practices, and that didn't work. If you don't have the same beliefs, something will eventually break the camels back, so to speak.
I am also a christiann. It depends what your more into . If you feel that strongly about church than you should do the right thing and break up with him. But if you realy like him than you should tell him that you dont like him saying those things around you, if he realy likes you he should understand. Good luck!!
keep your faith, as it is only your soul you need be concerend with, sex was a mistake at such a young age, you need to stop before you have more regretts, he may push you more for this, as for his faith, its up to him to find it for himself, keep to the good book, dont worry , he may not be the one for you, you are young, life will hold many lessons yet, be strong, be happy
well like us all u should wait till we married for sex. but by being 15 n have broken up 5 times u n him may jus wanna b friends... You say you really love him but u can wait.. he need to understand God for him self. But because u love him dosent mean that he gon bthere n love u always..
Question: Would a relationship with this person likely bring you closer to or further away from God? The answer is also what you should be with this person.
I can give you several things to do but God holds your answer. I strongly suggest you put a good amount of time aside and seek the Lord and His will for your life. When you know and understand what direction God shows you, go that direction with all of your heart. God set standards in our lives for a reason but it isn't for deprivation it is for living a blessed life!
A person like that will just pull you away from what you believe to be right. He is doubting the existence of God. And that is something very serious. With time he'll just pull you away from church and the things he thinks separate you two. Best thing would be to distance yourself from him.
First- I'm proud of you for realizing the mistake you made and for not repeating it- that truly requires strength. Secondly- Give the situation to God. Don't try to solve your boyfriends problems, because you can't. I'm sure you hardly even know how to answer his questions. You love him and therefore you want to do what is absolutely best for him- not what will hurt the least but, what is the best, right thing for him. I am a Christian- I know how you feel but Don't get upset with him. It is better that he is voicing his thoughts instead of him hiding them and acting like he believes everything he should. One day you would both regret it if he hid everything. He is young. He is still forming his beliefs. Don't judge him for that but- get him to someone (like a trusted pastor or Christian adult friend) who can answer his questions. Meanwhile- search the Bible yourself. Grow strong in your faith and know what you believe. It will be easier for you to fall when he is weak. I won't tell you to break up with him. But remember- do what is best for him- and keep yourself safe. Because he is questioning God he will not have the same standard about things like sex - that you do. Don't put yourself in a position where your beliefs and standards are broken down and destroyed. You can email me if you want.
being a christian you should be able to know better not to induldge in sex before marriage. not because you love somebody means that he is the choosen one, it is all in god's hands and no matter what you tried if this person is not for you the relationship will never wrong and i don't think it is too late to get out. hope you learn from your mistake that it will equip you for the future.
GOD BLESS YOU FIRST OFFF THE DEVIL IS A LIAR!!! ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS RUIN YOUR LIFE THE DEVIL CAME TO DESTROY YOU ARE YOUNG AND GOD HAS A PURPOSE WITH YOU BUT HE CANT WORK IT THROUGH WITH YOUR BEHAVIOR, THE SCRIPTURES SAY WHOEVER IS FRIENDS WITH THE WORLD IS MY ENEMY, YOU CANNOT LIVE WITH ONE FOOT IN AND ONE FOOT OUT AND IF HE HAS THE NERVE TO TELL YOU WHAT HAS GOD DONE FOR HIM TELL HIM GOD HAS HAD MERCY ON HIM AND THATS ENOUGH ALSO I WISH YOU WOULDNT KEEP HAVE SEX WITH HIM IF YOU REPENTED AND KEEP DOING IT YOU ARE DISRESPECTING GOD AND YOURSELF DONT PLAY WITH GOD , ALSO LIFE IN GOD IS NEVER GOING TO BE PERFECT BUT THE LORD WILL ALWAYS GIVE US PEACE AND MAKE IT RIGHT PLEASE WRITE BACK TO ME AND LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS ALSO TELL YOUR GUY THAT HE NEEDS TO RECONCILE HIS LIFE AND IF HE DOESNT MOVE ON!!! QUICKLY IF THE LORD WERE TO COME TODAY ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE LIST IN THE BOOK OF LIFE?
im not too sure either but putting him in front of ur religious belifs im too a christian but never been put in any similar situations so im prob not a big help sorry. good luck
It sounds to me like he's playing head games with you. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear but take it from someone who's been there. I'm sure you do love him but if you really do love him it's time to let go. He's not going to make you happy, and more than likely, he's going to try to change you--or in his eyes, "fix you". Yes, I know that sounds cruel and harsh and judgmental, but judging by what you've said, it sounds likely to me. I hope you find some peace about all this soon. Bad relationships suck and nobody should have to live in that turmoil.
It always makes me happy when I see teens live their lives for the Lord. With the way the world is in today, we need Him to be rite beside us in all we do, & to protect us at all times. When God is truly in your life, you don't have to "hope", you KNOW. His faith is truly being tempted & tried, & you know it's not the Lord who is doing it. No ones life is 100% happy at all times. That just wouldn't be life. But with the Lord on our sides, we can ALWAYS call on Him to help us get thru the rough times & KNOW He will come thru in one way or another. I would put this matter in God's Hands. Yes, you love him, but maybe God has other plans for you. He will not let one door close without opening another one for us. What does your b/f expect God to do for him in his life? In these days we need God in our lives more than ever. We need His reassurance He w/NEVER leave us or forsake us. Even when things seem impossible He is always there for us. I'd suggest you sincerely put this all in His Hands & you let go & let God. If it seems like you are to let go of your b/f & he's putting doubt in your mind about your love of God, maybe he's just not the right person for you. I lost my 14 yr. old granddaughter not too long ago in a car accident. She was a Christian, her hero on My Space was "Jesus". Even w/all our devistation & hurt, we KNOW she is in Heaven, we KNOW we w/see her again. Without the Lord in any of our lives, we would not have this assurance of seeing her again & being w/her thru eternity. Don't ever let your faith falter or temptation confuse you. You've broken up w/him a few times already for some reason, so there must be something questionable to begin with. Stay strong in the Lord, He will ALWAYS take care of you & provide for you in EVERY WAY. The Lord bless you....let go & let God...
Wow, you are 15 and already having sex. And you don't know why you are confused. Not to scare the complete shit out of you. But are you aware of STD's -sexually transmitted diseases. That young people like yourself are getting diagnosed with everyday. I'm a health professional so I've witnessed this horror first hand. I've seen 23yo whom have had HIv and AIDs for years. AIDS patient are dying fastest now than they did 5 years ago. FIVE YEARs. In five years you will be 20. Will you be one of my patients. Please child ask God for guidance. You are too young to be making choices like this. If your friend is confused about God. Pray for him and leave him alone. You said you need advice. So that means you aren't capable of handling his doubts about God and what purpose he serves in his life. You are 15. Go do 15 yo things. Read a mystery. Study. Go look for potential places to go to college. At 15 you can't possible know what love is. you may think you do. But honesty you don't.
Hi Nyx, First off, you're 15, you just met this guy, you keep breaking up with him (why?).. You're not in love with him. If anything it's lust. How about just trying to be a friend to him? Love will come to you when you are older and you can respect yourself and the man in your life. Second, from a christian perspective, if you are having sex you are sinning. You are on the right path by repenting and not repeating your sin. Third,You don't need to be upset with him for his beliefs. You do need to pray for him!! He is going through a period of questioning his faith. Remind him the evidence of God is everywhere and share with him why you believe. As for his statement," it's impossible to know that God truly exists, you can only hope." He's right, but that is faith. We, as the faithful, are trying to get to heaven. If God exists and we know it we will do everything to spend our eternity in heaven. If God doesn't exist, it doesn't matter what we do because there would be no heaven. So what do we loose by believing in God? Nothing. What could we loose by not believing in God? Our souls, heaven! I think you're smart to believe...Peace
That guy is a loser and why you gave it up is beyond me. This is how destructive relationships start. Did you think you were going to change him? Most women think that and one thing leads to another and next thing you know you're stuck in a relationship that is not productive for you. It turns into a parasitic relationship and he's gonna use you like he is now. Get out now...