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What would you have done? My apostolic friend... Christian advice please :)?
My friend has a 16 year old daughter 'Kayla'. Kayla has been dating this guy for about a year and her mom found her cell phone and started reading the text messages. This is what some said: "Text me back. This isn't f**king funny" "You will call me back if you know what is good for you." "I want to go further than just oral..." "Call me back or I'll kill myself" "I hate God and I hope I burn in h*ll" My friend and her family are apostolic Christians and after finding these text messages, she made her daughter and him break up. She said if he doesn't leave the family alone, she might have him arrested (since Kayla was only 15 when they started dating). What is some good advice I can give my friend? Thank you very much **hugs**
Public Comments
- "Parents should not provoke their children to wrath." That is a verse but I don't have time to look it up right now. I'm in an answering frenzy!!!
- Your friend needs to take her parent's advice and stay away from sexual relations at such a young age. The guy really sounds like he has some serious problems.. from what you wrote..I also got the idea that the guy is a lot older than she is, and having relationships with underage girls is a very serious offense now days
- I would say good for her mother to get rid of that kid. Taking the phone to his parents might be another good idea. This isn't funny. The police could know this as well. These days, people kill for anything, and kids do it even. This should not be taken lightly.
- If the daughter sent those messages I would suggest she be put in an impatient psychiatric treatment program. If it was the other person sending those messages do call the police.
- Your friend is right in having her daughter break up with this person. It is a parents responsibility to care for the spiritual well being of their children. And her daughter being involved with this person is a danger to her spiritual well being. If "Kayla" is having difficulty with her mother's decision, then I advise seeking good spiritual counsel from a trusted youth minister.
- I have two words for them. Restraining Order.
- It sounds like they is doing pretty good without your advice.
- it is a sad thing. I wonder how long they waited to instruct their daughter in the faith? Didnt they raise her in Jesus's moral law? Teaching her about the virtue of chasity and purity and love. If they waited for her to be "Old enough" to choose Jesus and faith for herself, like alot of protestants, then it is kinda late. It is a good time to teach your kids from the crib. Be a good example, and teach them to love our Lord, and tell them stories of the saints like Maria Goretti who jumped from her bedroom window to get away from a boy who had intentions to rape her. She was a martry for purity. But, alas, we dont want to teach our children stories like this, we wait until theres a crisis and then blame God for it. The girl was rather young to have a boyfriend.
- It seems like their doing fine already.
- This is completely for the girls parents to decide what to do. Their parenting skills come into play here, regardless of their religious beliefs.
