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Hebrew dating a Christian??????

Im a christian (raised in the episcopal church) woman on the fence about continuing to date a guy of the hebrew religion. I dont really know much about this religion and what they do and dont believe in. However there was an incident between us that deals with religion and has me unsure of whether or not I should continue to date him. We were riding in my car one day and I have a rosary hanging from the rearview mirror. (I went to catholic school the majority of my life so thats where the rosary part comes in.) So he comes out with I need to remove it from my car cause it doesnt mean anything. And he's going to have to stop riding in my car because of it. So he starts questioning me about why I believe in it and do I believe in it becuse of what Ive been taught or what Ive learned, I guess from reading or something. He was driving my car when he said this. So my first reaction was a lil anger (because here you are driving my car and I feel like he was disrespecting me in my property) which turned into me being hurt but now Im starting to get angry again. He's apologized but I truly feel like he disrespected my religion so there's no reason to continue seeing him. Which is really hard cause I really care about him but I feel like he's trying to make me deter away from being a christian, which is never going to happen. Does anyone have any advice???? Just to clarify, he considers himself as Hebrew he never says he's Jewish. We're not young kids either. Im 24 and he's 34. Also Ive met his mother not the father. I know his father is of the same religion but Im not sure of his mother.

Public Comments

1. I'm an atheist engaged to a Christian....as long as you promise to respect one another's beliefs, it's possible.
2. wow, stop riding in your car because of rosary beads? Yeah that's really sad, and very immature of him. Move on....people of different religions should be able to get along, but I guess you both can't.
3. None of this would ever occur if people were taught not to label...::sigh:: It should be [your name] dating [his name] rather than what you have used to classify yourself. If both of you did that, then you would have never become angry and he wouldn't have anything to apologize for because there would be total acceptance.
4. date some one who belives the same as you,, youll have much in common and it will avoied many many arguments and problems. date a christian, it may leed to a very succesfull relation ship, even marrige. good luck!
5. One incident shouldn't make you break up. Just try not to bring religion up. My boyfriend is Catholic and I'm Christianish...it's complicated. But we're totally different religion wise. But we just don't talk about it. He also shouldn't force his religion on you by telling you to take the rosary out. I admit that was rude. He should respect your beliefs. If it happens again, have a really serious talk with him. But if not, just enjoy what you have.
6. I'm catholic and dated Hebrew guys..unless he's orthodox, it shouldn't be a problem. He may have been trying to start a conversation about your beliefs...did you answer his question?
7. Firstly - i agree with him, rosaries are meaningless - all we need is jesus death. However, a hebrew is like a christian that ignored Jesus. Unfortuneatly Jesus is the only way that a person can get to heaven. So without Jesus, he's going straight to hell. It is very hard to have a family together ifyou are going different directions. Do you want him to pull you off the salvation path by making you blaze about your christianity? But do you think he will accept Jesus becuase of you? Paul, the apostle, said "Do not be un-equally yoked". He was referring to marrying someone who is not a christian.
8. His religion is called Judaism by the way, not Hebrew. Although these people are often called JEWS or 'Hebes Jewish beliefs are completely opposed to Christian beliefs. pretty soon you won't be ALLOWED to celebrate holidays such as Chritmas, Easter or even Thanksgiving. I'm guarantee that you haven't met his parents. Jewish people to not ALLOW their kids to date, and especially MARRY non-Jewish people. Go ahead, next week, just for a joke, suggest to him that he comes Christmas shopping with you. You like to get it over and done with in the summer. See what he says!!!!!
9. If it weren't for the Jews there would be no Christians. If you care about this man open your mind and learn a bit about his beliefs, as he should learn about yours. If you went to Catholic school you would have taken religion classes, as I did (13 year catholic school survivor) and learned of the Jewish influence in the christian traditions. If you are to truly respect each others beliefs then you need to learn about them, you are not being asked to practice them so it shouldn't be a big deal. If you are both unwilling to educate yourselves about something as important as each others faith then you might as well get out now. Oh, and there would also be no Protestants if there weren't Catholics.
10. Well.. if you really like him, I wouldn't call it quits just yet. To many relationships have been ruined because of religion. He did disrespect you though and you need to talk to him about that. But if you two are level headed enough, I'm sure you can work it out. Having said that...what he did has nothing to do with him being Jewish. People of all faiths have been guilty of disrespecting other religions. I would sit him down, and have a frank discussion about what you espect. Let him know you respect his religion and in turn you expect him to respect yours. You have your beliefs..he has his. No big deal! Learn from one another...and more importantly...enjoy each other...even the differences! If he can't understand that..then he is not worth it.
11. Well, it is a little disturbing, but I wouldn't finish it off just yet. It is very nice of you to take the insults of your rosary, but you're not the only one who believes in something, you know... How come you don't know anything about his religion? He seems to be pretty familiar with yours. Maybe he was just trying to make a religious conversation with you? maybe he was just trying to talk to you about HIS beliefs for a change? Maybe he was just trying to interest you with his religion? Don't hurry to interpret his behavior as national insult.