Christian Dating Guide

I need good, Christian advice?

I am a bit troubled. I believe my son has a girlfriend, because she left a dirty magazine with men in it under his bed. My son is only 16 and I really don't think he's ready to date yet. What's worse is that he's sneaking some girl to his room behind my back. I need help, God! I want my son to stop being so secretive!

Public Comments

1. The best advice I can give is to confront your son and share with him your feelings. Even though he's sixteen, it's your house and your rules. It's hard to know what to do, and they may not always listen, but you're headed in the right direction by caring enough to address the issue.
2. Talk to him. Set some rules up. I'm a Christian girl and I would hope to find a good Christian boy. Teach him morals, take him to church. Tell him that sex is wrong.
3. Learn about Yahweh and abandone Christianity thats a pagan religion!
4. You need to talk to him, tell him how much you love him and explain to him the risks of his behavior. Do not put him on the defensive ... get him to see your side of it.
5. Possibly your son is gay. EDIT: Actually, I would say that he most likely *is* gay. Not many 16 year old boys would want a playgirl around under any circumstances. Think about it.
6. "dirty magazine with men in it" are you sure he hasn't got a boyfriend?
7. do you have a spouse there to back you up? if so, use him...be a team...if not go it alone or with other family members or friends to back you up....when you are dealing with sex issues, kids will not give in easy or believe you if you just tell them by yourself....they have their friends to outnumber you....... but one way or the other, talk to him about the magazine..tell him it is wrong....explain that God has rules about this....and he is not ready for such things...it is sin in the magazine...not holy like in marriage..... lock your windows...in case she comes in like that....monitor or supervise your home...get others to help watch things....he is being secretive because he is being seduced and it feels good....he will have to have this lust spirit broken or he will continue...
8. Are you sure it isn't his magazine?
9. Being able to help your son ultimately has nothing to do about religion. As a parent you need to confront him and talk to him about whatever issues he may have, but you need to remember that "you" are the parent and its your house. He needs to respect that, and he needs to comprimise. If hes going to bring girls in or not, you should know, and he should tell you.
10. At this age what has been done in the last 16 years is what is most important. It is hard to change now. Hopefully you have a good relationship with him of love and trust and can use it gently to walk with him through this time. A careful and thoughtful study of Prov. 5-8 explaining why God (through Solomon) is warning against such behavior and the terrible consequences of it. Take examples like David and Bathsheba. Also have him look at the many broken homes and hearts that abound today and lovingly explain your wanting to help him avoid something that can easily ruin his (and maybe others) lives. Pray for discernment for when and how much to trust him as he has entered that age of growing independent and there is no stopping it, only guiding it. Don't be angry or forceful, but stand firm on rules and make them good and fair rules. Love him with great unwavering love and make sure he knows your there no matter what. Pray fervently. I'm not sure what the father situation is but a godly man in his life would be a great help also.
11. MORON p.s. you are about to come back to reality...ready??? k here we gooooooooooooo your son is a fag
12. If you're serious, you need to consider that perhaps your son is gay? With this in mind, I hope you don't go on to make him feel bad about himself by telling him sex is 'wrong'. We are all right, you know, we do grow up into nice people who love our parents and hope they accept us for who we are.
13. You should track down that hussy and let her know that her filth will not be allowed in your house. You should probably have a talk with your boy as well and let him know what kind of girl you would like him to date and that he needs to bring her by for approval. Hopefully this will clear up the entire problem.
14. yeah, listen to vick....
15. Uh, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your son's girlfriend isnt sneaking men porn mags into his room...he's looking at men porn mag. You gotta ask yourself something? When you were a young teenage girl, would you take a man's porn magazine over to your boyfriends house? The power of denial...