Christian Dating Guide

Christian teen dating?

my girlfriend and i have been dating for a few months, and bestfriends for years. We both feel we are in love, and never going to leave each other.. we are both involved in church, and we just dont know how far to far is, in the 1st base, 2nd base and so on... we need help setting our bounderies, we used to do alot, but recently stopped. if anyone has any advice please help us

Public Comments

1. man, both of you are real losers
2. Well, doing one thing leads to another. I wouldn't try to round the bases too quickly. It's only been a few months? Give it some time where you're still just making out...maybe touching eachother's as*es or something.
3. get married y shouldnt u do it
4. Depends how "christian" you want to be. I would say 3rd base is good. It's a realistic achievable goal not to go farther than that.
5. the Bible says just looking lustily is adultery so i dont know if you take it seriously or what...
6. I agree with the other guy. you guys are lame
7. if you're that concerned, how about you stay on the bench.
8. If you feel guilty, you went too far. If your honest with yourselves this will be a perfect barometer.
9. Focus on church MORE. It will help a lot. Also talk about it cause when you verbally say it, it may help to actually make the connection between boundries. Hope this helps :]
10. if you both are really christian, hand holding and kissing is about as far as you should go. It is good to see that there are some christian youth still around. Don't let anyone tell you different.
11. It depends on the person really... mny pastor at my youth group preaches about this a lot acutally.. you can do things when you're dating... don't have sex, of course, but you can kiss, hold hands, hug... and then farther, but once you feel you're going too far. THAT'S when you stop. ♥ xoxo
12. deeply religious people r lame, i agree wit the others u fail
13. id say do the christian thing dont do" it "
14. Ok well i was at the same problem then i just really started to do stuff cause idk.. Thats just me. But i mean do what ever you want Jesus aint gonna smite theeey Lol. So just talk between you 2 about what you want to do and if it is really small thing then it prob will change as you go on... Cause you 2 wont be able to keep controll lol. But i mean im not having sex untill like 1 year with her cause i think that is long enough to know if she is the one EVEN THOUGH I KNOW SHE IS but i just wanna wait cause im not even close to ready to do it now. But just talk to her about and and work things out. Explain to eachother why you dont want to do that.
15. Both of you should talk about it in person. Talking to each other eye to eye means a lot. You will both be able to tell where either of you want your "boundaries" at. Discuss what you want in life...
16. You have to set your own boundries.....You say you guys use to do alot, but stopped ! Stopping now does not change the past, but does not make you a bad Christian either !
17. The best boundary is a condom.
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19. although you go to Church shouldn't affected your love life your best friends and now you love in a different way you the guy so its time you made the next move be sure to use a condom preferably Durex. Without a condom may lead to a disease know as a sexual transmitted disease (STD) or pregnancy
20. don't do anything that involves removing clothing and that it the boundarie so have fun be affectionate but don't take off any of your clothes or hers
21. Don't let anyone else set either of your boundaries. No person can tell you what you'll be comfortable with. You guys need to talk about it, not question it here. If your faith has the most significant say in the matter, than I'd go with ask your pastor. I'm Jewish, but I know that Christianity has a lot of sects and they all kind of have beliefs here and there that will vary. I had sex and had a child without being married, but I was comfortable with it and although I understand it's sin - I also have a personal relationship with G-d that is fit for my life and my belief. I may few G-d as more adapting than some, but, like I said - that's why you guys need to figure it out for yourself.
22. There are no clear boundaries. In olden days, courting couples were not left unsupervised for that reason. Even a touch was taboo. Can you imagine what a wedding night that would make? How desirous? Fireworks 1. You will leave each other. Trust me on that one. 2. If you are Christian and want to save yourself for marriage reign in those hormones. 3. Kissing OK. Francais? Be careful. (This is hard I know. Did I do it? Well..... I'm a lot wiser now) 4. You will make a much better spouse if you have had several relationships with the opposite sex.
23. Ah, christian dating and what is too much. This is tricky. The problem is that you are both human and the sooner you realize this the better off the two of you will be. See this is what's going to happen if you don't work it out soon. The two of you are going to be making out, things are going to start moving along and one of you is going to say, "are you sure this isn't too much" the other will say it's fine, then a few hours, or days later that person that said it was fine is going to be feel guilty about what happened and then be mad at the other person for letting it happen. I've been there, done that, and the relationship is usually over in months. Here's what you two need to do. You both need to sit down and talk about being human and your religious beliefs. You're both old enough to think for yourselves. You can't rely on the other person to be stronger or have more will power not to say yes when the other says it's ok they want to do that stuff. You both have to take responsibility for your actions. If you don't the relationship won't work. There's nothing wrong with doing what your doing. God made us the way we are and God does forgive if you lose control of yourselves. Hope I helped. Good luck to you two.
24. Dont do anything that you dont feel good about. If you go too far, then your going to feel guilt. Talk with each other about it. Do more church activities together. That will keep you in right frame of mind. You are not losers. You are not lame. You are doing what is right for you. The fact that you are a young man, and concerned about this, is a plus for you. You are doing the right thing, and trying to live in the right way. You are respecting yourself, and you are respecting your girlfriend. YOU ARE A WINNER!, NOT A LOSER! The crowd isnt always right. Wide is the path to you know where, while NARROW IS THE GATE TO HEAVEN. Good for you!!!!
25. its simple if you will go to hell for it dont do it if it pisses God of dont do it pal what you want me to say it oh ok NO FLOCKING NO THINKING OF FLOCKING NO FLOCKING WITHOUT A LISENCE TO FLOCK WAIT UNTIL YOUR FLOCKING MARRIED OR GOD WILL WILL WILL BE PISSED why is it ppl ask questions to which they already know the answers read your bible its kinda clear about what not to do
26. Because you have this weight on your shoulders due to your religion that I will never have, I don't think I can help you. I never have to worry about some strange (and slightly psychotic, I might add) Guy in the Sky watching my every move. I can do who and whatever I want, and go where ever I am pleased to. If you ask me, God is the biggest Satanist of them all. He wants all the attention, wants your worship, you are in debt to him as soon as you are born. He wants you to look forward to death all of your life and never have any fun because fun is sinful. *pity pat* It's gonna be okay.