Christian Dating Guide - My sister is dating a non-Christian..?

My sister is dating a non-Christian..?

and she is torn on whether or not to marry him. (he wants to get married). He is very supportive of her faith but doesn't exactly share it. They are great together and love eachother.. she doesn't want to make a mistake but doesn't want to lose him just because of where he is (and of course, there are no guarantees that the christian you marry will remain a christian either, as I have personally seen with other friends). What kind of advice should I give her? It seems so right for them to be together and they love and respect eachother so deeply... Grace, I think it's dangerous to hope for no change in people. If I had never changed, I would never be a new person in God Dear rnd1938, Being a Christian does not make you a non-sinner. It's impossible to avoid marrying sinners!

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Values go much deeper than religion.
Why can't people all be free to think what they want? God loves everyone no matter if they are liked by others, and no matter if they do not believe in Him. He knows every heart, for He created us all for a purpose. Atheists are serving their purpose as they are. I have been so enriched knowing many that do not believe in the lord, and my life would have been less full if they believed in Him, because their beliefs truly make them who they are. You do not need to change them, and should not want to if you truly believe in God. He told us all that he has a purpose for every living thing. Who are we to cast that word away because we don't agree? I pray for you all, and encourage you to not change a bit. You are who you are and I love you for it. Grace
Don't make problems to lovers.
My wife is Christian,she isn't going to change,neither will I. We have enjoyed a wonderful life together and we have great discussions about our belief/non belief. She now realizes that atheist does not =bad person.
If the only thing keeping her from marrying him is religion, then he deserves better and she isn't ready to get married.
I know most people are going to disagree with my answer, but, she should not marry him. Here's why. "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" 2 Cor. 6:14-15 If she really is strong in her faith then she would not marry him and leave him. Also a good link about this subject is right here http://www.carm.org/questions/yoked.htm
Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers is what the Bible says. It has to be Christ OR, NO, marriage. If God is first then she should put him first. Not her overlooking that he is not born from above; AS IF IT DOES NOT MATTER, to God.
He is supportive and respectful of her belief? Then he is a good husband prospect. Because like you say, people change after they get married. My own husband and I started out with the same belief, have both changed many times and lately, are believing similarly again. Respect is what counts!
You should love someone for who they are, not for who they could someday be. If he is supportive of her faith and is not asking her to give it up, then it should not be an issue. If they love each other, she shouldn't let this stop them from being together. Remember, God sometimes leads us to certain people for a reason -- and he doesn't view us by "labels", but by the nature of our hearts.
If they think there is the slightest chance they might one day have children, they need to hash out now how they will be raised in terms of religion. Often in mixed marriages everything is wonderful until there is a child and all sort of unexpected assumptions come it. It doesn't matter what the final decision is as long as it's one where both people are comfortable and feel what is important to them is respected. Before I married a Jew, it was decided that since, in his religion our children wouldn't be Jewish, they would be raised Christian, but help him and his side of the family celebrate their holidays. When they were 10, they could chose to prepare for conversion if they wanted to. One did, and dropped out after 4 weeks of Hebrew class. She later concerveted in her 20s, and married a Bhuddist. The other, still a Christian, married to a Jewish woman and their (adopted) child is being raised as a Jew, because they considered that their son has a Jewish mother. (I know there is some debate over this.) My husband and I are happy with this outcome, but we went thought some tough discussions deciding how we'd raise our children in light of our different religions. (It was up to our children what they did with theirs.) But we had that hashed out before we had the added stress of new babies and trying to figure out how we felt about their religious upbringing. Other couples we know who decided to work it out once they had children seemed to have a much harder time and in a couple of cases it created real stress in the marriage. Hope this helps.
they can marry if they want. she must remember she cannot serve two masters. God is first and foremost. what if she needs to support her husband at his office party, brunch or some other event on the same day she goes to church/bible study. the bible says to serve your husband. it also says to serve God.
It won't work it like dark and light 2 corinth 6 14 it tell u not married a sinner
The bible says to be equally yoked with the person that you're with, I'm not saying they don't love eachother but she has to choose God first and then him 2nd. Tell her to pray about it and pray for his salvation....she should want the Lord to bless their marriage.