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Christian dating Non-Christian question?

I have been dating a really nice guy for two months. Since the beginning of our relationship I've known that I couldn't have anything serious between us because he's not a Christian. I don't want to lead him on and for him to think that I want something longterm. I don't want to completely end our relationship because I really enjoy spending time with him. How do I go about telling him that I don't want anything serious but I still want to have fun and be his friend?

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1. My mother is Christian, and my father is Jewish. It doesn't matter your religion, as long as he does not pester you to convert!
2. why does religion matter? i think what matters is if your both in love.
3. So you didn't want to lead him on, but you dated him for two months. Hmm. I think you need to get over yourself. Just because you believe in a magic invisible man, and he doesn't, so what? Does he believe in a different magic invisible man? Or none at all? Either have a relationship with him or don't. But what you are trying to do is have your cake and eat it. You claim you don't want to lead him on, but it sounds like that exactly what you are doing. From the way you worded your last sentence you make it sound like you have not even explained your point of view to him yet.
4. To be honest, I don't really think it should be a problem, unless he's disrespectful toward you or your faith. If you enjoy your time with him, just enjoy it. If it gets serious, deal with that when it happens. I don't think you have to share the same views on everything, even an issue as important as religion if you can talk openly & respect each other.
5. What do you mean by just having fun? Are you a part time Christian or full time? If your full time then you know that the bible clearly states not to have relationships with non-believers. Doesn't mean you can't be his friend, but if it involves anything more (you know what I mean) then best to walk away.
6. You should be honest with him and explain why you can't see the relationship as long term. I assume it is because of a dirrerent value system? If so, tell him what your values are. just because he is not a christian, doesn't make him bad. He may have the same values but just doesn't have Christ in his life. Good luck. Is he religious? Many people are confused as to what makes a person Christian. A Christian is someone who accepts Christ and follows his teachings. And to the poster above me, I would like to see where it says in the bible that you can't have a relationship with a non believer.
7. be silly about it, but kind of serious, just say, hey cutie, lets talk, ummmm..... i dont want u to hate me for saying this, but i think this is the best thing for the two of us, we can have fun, but we need to be friends, and after that, ask him what he thinks, and then start a conversation after that, and after he gets talking, hugggg him soooo tight
8. Listen I just want to be your friend, because I know that we couldn't have something serious since you aren't a Christian. it's just my belief as a Christian. And if you were my real friend you would accept my beliefs.
9. Maybe you could lead him to God too.
10. Yeah, I know alot of people like that, and completely understand. Definitely don't get in any farther than friendship, and you might want to say something before he gets the wrong idea. But be careful who you hang out with, even if their just friends. Usually the world has more of an influence on Christians, than the other way around. But as long as you think its ok... just be careful. An easier way to tell him you just want to be friends rather than more, rather than just blurting it out, would be more like - Only hang out in groups - Don't talk to him on the phone as long - Try not to go on EVERY "outing"/date he asks you to - DONT encourage him at all, but still be friendly Good Luck!
11. You are un equally yolked. And the Bible makes it clear non to be unequally yolked together with unbeleivers. You are out of Gods will.I am sure he is a good guy and nice and good friend, But eventually, you will compromise to his beiliefs and morals ( or lack of. ) I was in a relationship with someone who wasnt walking with God at the time, and i began to compromise myself. I broke it off because i knew nothing good could come of this. But he was a nice guy! If you are aChristian, i would hope that you are only seeking Gods will for your life and the perfect person he has for you. By staying with this nice guy, you may be missing out on the one God has for you. Seek God and he will bring the person for you that can walk beside you. A non Christian doesn't share the values that the bible teaches (because they don't know them), and if you value them, you'll end this . I sought God and he brought me someone who shares all i beleive and have a wonderful marriage.
12. Your faith does matter despite what other answerers have said. The bible warns against becoming "unequally yolked". But that choice is yours to make. Obviously if you're saying it won't work, your mind is not open to the possibility of being with a non-believer. That's perfectly okay. You know what you want and a non-believer is not it. However, you have been dating him and that is leading him on. You can't have it both ways, or have your cake and eat it to, as the saying goes. You're not being fair to him. If all you want to be is friends, then tell him that, but be prepared for him to walk away. Many people can't be "just friends" with someone they care for romantically. As a christian this could be your opportunity to witness to him. Nobody wants religion or church or faith pushed on them, so definately don't do that. But it wouldn't hurt to invite him to go to church with you. If he's not open to that you have to respect it.
13. You can't stop love! And i am pretty sure God is ok with that.