Christian Dating Guide

Former Christians:Has your relationships with your Christian friends changed since you left Christianity?

Public Comments

1. Some are not allowed by their faith to associate with me
2. You might say that. They treat me as if I have the plague. Some friends.
3. With a few it has. But to me, those who don't accept me for who I am weren't true friends anyway.
4. nope. i even got invited to some creation fest thing last summer...needles to say i didn't go
5. you cant just become a non christian if you were ever a true christian. the only thing that can separate anyone from God and make them not a christian anymore is if they just totally resist God and the holy spirit and become slaves of satan.
6. No, not really. I was very young when I attended a Christian church, so I wasn't very close to the people that I hung around when I was there anyway. But I still have plenty of Christian friends and there are rarely any problems among us.
7. For me, nope.
8. yes, many treat me like dirt.
9. I never had Christian friends. And I haven't left Christianity. I'm just a normal lady, who respects thers and lives her life to the fullest. As long as I don't kill anyone, I'm good. When I need a peaceful state of mind, I pray to God. Damn, my life sounds hard.
10. I don't have friends.... Problem solved...
11. I do associate with them less, this has more to do with the fact they tend to move primarily in Christian circles than any deliberate shunning, though. I don't tend to argue with them, however, as they know I have a strong knowledge of the Biblical canon and theology, so I am always able to frame my views in terms of Christian understandings.
12. Not at all until I converted to Judaism. Now I'm so involved with my Jewish friends, I don't have the time to spend with others like I used to. .
13. I'm a Christian and I have a few friends that have walked away from the church. Our relationship has changed a little... in the aspect that I don't bring up what's happening at church or the youth group or how God has been touching my life, etc... I don't want to keep harping on them that they should come back. If anything, I just pray for them... and when we're spending time together- it's not for an ulterior motive.
14. A few people who I used to sort of know stopped talking to me and started saying some mean things about me but none of my true friends have treated me any differently.
15. Yes and no, some don't care. Some don't take it serious. But we're still friends in the end.
16. If it did, then they wouldn't be real friends in the first place.
17. there is nothing to leave Christianity to, it is all a waste land and horror, to live without God, without God there is nothing, why would anyone leave Christianity for what???
18. It hasn't really, but I never would have befriended them in the first place if they were that small-minded. Although a couple of them have a kind of smug he'll-be-back kind of attitude.
19. Yup. It seems that EVERYTHING revolves around "Thank God" for ....... If one leaves, they have realized that not everything deserves the "Thank God" label.
20. I haven't told them yet, but I am sure it will.
21. i agree with ropin_blondie, if you are a true Christian, and you accepted Christ as your savior, God still watches you, and your friends pray for you, you are still a Christian, you can resist God, but you are still a Christian
22. answer: Yes. I lost several friends but then found new ones, including many friends outside of my religion. And Ropin's attitude is a common one. An arrogant and self-serving one. If they acknowledge that a true "believer" could walk away, they might have to question their own beliefs and they can't handle it.
23. I'm not friends with kids I went to Church with anymore. I was raised Nazarene. There's no way we'd have anything in common anymore. I wouldn't tolerate their bigotry and they wouldn't tolerate me not tolerating it.
24. Yes---unfortunately some people cannot except people for who they are!
25. I left a long time ago for a good while. My relationship didn't change with my Christian friends. I'm back to being a Christian again, won't ever leave either. By the way, it's very important to note that true Christians don't turn their backs on someone because the stop believing - or for any other reason. In other words, if your relationship changes with friends after you leave Christianity and they treat you in an outcast manner because of that, they were neither a friend nor a Christian.
26. I never socialized much but I did have one friend who quit contacting me after she found out. I think she was under a lot of stress and I know she had been taught that she would be 'tempted' to leave/betray Christ when she was weak. So, like many, she apparently (at least in her sub-conscious) thinks I only exist to tempt her. Kind of an insulting thought that an intelligent creator would create me to burn in Hell...all for her benefit. Especially since 'He' would know the outcome anyway, being all-knowing.