Christian Dating Guide
HELP! Christian dating boundaries???
I've been getting mixed views on what is moral or immoral to do while dating (within a Christian context). Until marriage: No sex... Obvious. No oral sex... Okay. 2nd base??? Talking dirty? Making out? Kissing? Hugs? Any physical contact? What are your viewpoints? Opinions? Advice? Thanks and God bless! ^^ ----> To dizzy r: I'd be mad if touching my breasts DIDN'T make my boyfriend want to have sex with me! Haha! ^^
Public Comments
- This should be interesting.
- Jesus said that if a man lusted after a woman then he already commited adultery with her. What does your heart do in these circumstances?
- Paul says it best: 1 Cor 10:23-24.
- what is the point of talking dirty if you can't do the dirty? i can't ride ponies so i don't talk about them. how well do you interpret, "thou shalt not commit adultery?" because i don't know what that means. so the real question is, how much do you trust the fallable humans that have interpreted to whatever all these random christians are going to tell you?
- Really this is based on you, your partner, and how you both feel about each of the things you've asked about. The main thing is not to do anything that would tempt you to want to have any kind of sex at all. For instance, if touching your breasts makes your boyfriend want to have sex with you. (or have nasty thoughts about it) You really should refrain from doing that. The idea is to not do anything that would lead you into temptation. I hope this helps!
- No Sex and Oral sex are a definate no no. Talking dirty can get disrespectful. Everything else is pretty much up to you. Remember, Everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial. Those rules are put in place not because God is a cosmic kill joy, it's because by following them it will benefit you. For example, Imagine getting pregnant by a man that has no intentions of committing to you?
- You should make that decision based on how religious you really are and what you feel is right. I say all the things you marked with a "?" are ok but it really depends on you inner beliefs
- everything bar sex is ok.
- Don't ask me, I have my morals, and you have yours. Personally, I think anything goes if you respect and care about someone, and are committed to protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease. What do you really think is right for YOU?
- I'd be inclined to draw a strict line at second base. Beyond that point, I think the temptation curve starts to climb pretty steeply. But everyone is different, and each couple should talk this matter out and agree between themselves. You might try praying together at the beginning of a date. God bless you both!
- ****************************************** God's viewpoint is this: "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." - Ephesians 5:3 Below are some links to some good research material. The Secret Keeper is great. I got it for my daughter. We talk about everything. Modesty is important. I gave her a purity ring when she was 11. This is a reminder, to her, of her promise to me to remain pure for her husband. She is to wear it until that man replaces it with a wedding ring. Remember to pray. God Bless. ******************************************
- I am Jewish, but our religions have a little different point of view on this, but only a very small difference. If the union you are both seeking is one that will bring you spiritually closer to G-d, then until you find the one you are meant to be with, dating is mainly trying to find that person. So most sexual activity is not appropriate since that is something your are going to be sharing with that one special person. Hugs, certainly. "Talking dirty? Making out?" Whatever you chose, it should be loving, respectful of the each other, not demeaning or inconsistent with the child of G-d that you are. I put some sites below that answer this from a Christian point of view.
