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Why is is so hard to find an honest, kind, goodlooking, Christian man with a job? I have tried dating sites.?

I have been on many dating sites on the internet and the men that I meet lie about their looks, age and job status. I have even been on Christian dating sites and they are wolves in sheep clothing. I know that I am picky and that seems to limit what kind of men to date. Are there any good ones left? Any that have manners and can act like a gentleman and not an octopus? How about a man who can pay his bills and still take a woman out? It seems that the most simple requirements these days are almost impossible to find. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know. I am a very attractive, college degreed woman who has an excellent job with no kids or pets. Ok..WOW..I am amazed at so many responses. I appreciate everyone's input and respect everyone's opinion. I see that I need to clarify a few things. I have dated guys from different churches and they have turned out to be a bore, and not as spiritual as they claim. Even my parents have tried setting me up. I am not in any hurry at all. BUT am tired of lame dates. By the way b/c I am a career woman, I don't mind paying for dates, etc but I won't pay a man's bills...LOL...Yes they do ask!! I do realize that I am very kind, honest and generous to a fault. BUT I refuse to let any past relationships make me bitter. I do pray to GOD and am in no rush. I enjoy my single life and I do go out with girlfriends every weekend. We like to go dancing with no expectations for the men at clubs. We just enjoy ourselves.

Public Comments

1. Because most of them are gay
2. when its supposed to happen, itll happen.
3. u should visit Greece this summer... I m almost sure that u ll find your type and never want to get back. Waiting for u V
4. its hard becuz u will never find someone wit everything u say u want in him. or cuz dey gay or something.
5. Ever consider real, down-home country boys? Easier to spot the game players here...free for now too. Try www.farmersonly.com I have nothing to do with them, but I've seen them advertised and they were featured on the news and in a couple mags for their "down-home" attitude.
6. I like to think I'm that kind of guy. Really, you just have to ask God to help you find your love, and let His will be done.
7. plain and simple...they are dumb!!! i am the same way...an website don't work all the time...sometimes...u just gotta let God take his time instead of rushing yours...I learned that the hard way
8. look this is hard you could hardly find a man who is honest kind good looking in a site wait and you'll find the person u like
9. Don't give up...there are men out there that fit the mold you are looking for. The problem, which you are running into, is that you have to sift through all the crap. That can take a while and get you down quickly. You sound like you are worth it, so keep looking for that someone that measures up to your standards. He is out there. Where are you from, by-the-way?
10. Don't try just let it happen!
11. Here is a book, which can help you make a better selection. Also picking a meeting place where quality people are, you could meet the devil in a church as easy as in a Bar. Knowing this, you have to be able to spot and attract the right ones. Good Luck, it's a great learning process.
12. Why can't you younsters find somthing better to do than look for so called love.Don't try so hard. laurin
13. Ha this question is easy. I am one of those guys except im still in college so I don't have a job yet. The reason you can't find one is b/c we either already have a girl who is so happy that they found someone like us that they will never relinquish us, or we are to busy with work or school or other activities that we aren't looking for someone, or we are trusting God to lead us to the perfect mate if it is His will!
14. If you are so attractive why are you looking on the internet??? Try going to church related things and you re bound to find the right one ;)
15. Hello there, I guess that you are trying to settle down with what is best for you and I think you are absolutely right for that. Having high standards never harmed anyone before. How old are you? You could write me at johnjohnsonmail@yahoo.com if you want to.
16. You need to just wait for God's timing and not try to rush, if you choose to go on with your own timing, you run the risk of not knowing what to expect, and what you're getting your self into!
17. There are good men. You have to look in the right place. Online may not be the option for you or maybe you need to look for different criteria. The average guy is not a wolve and does not lie (much). People tend to attract similar attributes. Do you have a job you like, are you honest? Assuming you are, consider the fact that maybe you are superficially screening the men you pursue. Most men have jobs. I suggest playing the field and making them come to you. Afterall, a man that is quality material will want a good Christian woman. So stand back a bit and be objective. Tell them what you have to offer (and don't mention looks or $$$)...then tell them you expect the same. Then rather than giving a guy a chance on first commmunication, make them pursue you. Afterall, only the sincere will put a quality effort into the process. Never meet anyone till you have corresponded multiple times and talked more than once. It worked for me. Remember the statistics: if 10 out of 100 men are even qualified, less than 1 of them will be your type. That doesn't include longterm compatibility. Go for volume and learn the characteristics of guys that are genuine. They will be slow and sincere. Good guys don't rush things. The same goes for woman.
18. The problem is you're picky, especially about the CHRISTIAN! thing. Don't make that your main focus. Look for the qualities that you are after first and then worry about philosophical and theological beliefs. Also, you seem to be searching for a stereotypical man. Realize that we're all living in a feminist world where you're not going to have your dinner paid for all the time. I mean, what if the shoe were on the other foot? Also, it sounds to me that dating sites aren't the place for you... but if you must, try the free ones first. They're just as good at finding people and much lower overall risk. Good luck finding what you're looking for.
19. it is very hard to find a good man especially when youre picky but i promise you, you will find one!! dont give up on him your prince charming is right around the corner! good luck hun!!!
20. Just relax and have fun while you are single. Don't be so ready to find the one person for you. Learning and living is part of growing up. Go out with your girlfriends and have fun while you can. God will guide you where you need to be, but the harder you look, the more likely you will be to choose the wrong one. He knows where you need to be right now, and everything happens for a reason. Turn off your clock that is telling you you should be in a commited relationship, and trust in God's guidance.
21. I cant blame you for having high standards at all, and im happy to see that your not settleing, i see so many people do that out of desperation, but at any rate, does any members of your church know any single men? What about going to another church simmiler to yours and seeing if they have a single adult group that meets to study together, i know of a few churches in my home town that did that, or what about talking to your pastor and see if he knows of any men that have as high of standards as you do and are single, im sure your pastor would apprichiate the fact that your looking in the right place (church) to find a guy then looking in a bar or something. Just put it out there to your Christian community, tell them that now that you have your carrer established your looking to find a good honest man to build a life together with, i would like to imagine there are a ton of older ladies in your church that would love to play match maker and with your best interests at heart, they are old and wise and always know alot of people, i dont know if you like that idea or not but why not just giving it a shot to see if people you know, know a man in your same situation :)
22. I shouldn't answer this as I will probably make you mad. But I will so bear with me. Bottom line is it is because of the Christian thing. I can see why certain guys would prey on that. There are plenty of guys who are spiritual such as myself.... have a good job, money and know how to treat my other. I don't go to church but if my other feels that I would do so as well. Why? Because I love her and appreciate all of her qualities.
23. Visit a military base. They are mostly attractive, disciplined men, they make pretty good money, and a lot of them are christians. A lot of them are looking, too, because there is such a shortage of women. I met my navy guy away from a base (he was already out) but he told me all about it. Just beware... there are a lot of hags that try to nab the good ones there so that they can get a free military house.