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Christian dating?

My parents want me to date, but almost everything i've heard in the christian teen magazines say not to (or to be extriemely careful when you do). They think i am younger than i am; that i'm not intrested in guys. But they are dead wrong, i have diffaculties controling my passions even without a boyfriend. I am quite sure that if i had one, i would make some horrible choices. To date, or not to date?

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i think that you should be allowed to date, and remind them that salvation is earned through faith and forgiveness, not perfect obedience to God's law, which noone can perfectly keep anyway.
You actually read christian teen magazines? Well back to the question go out on group dates at first like going to a movie or carnival. Don't let him be abusive to you. so ya just be careful.
You know yourself best. I'm surprised your parents are pushing you. Make some nice guy friends and go out in groups, rather than get into "dating". Have fun, and when you meet the right guy, you will know. Make sure he's a serious Christian who will respect and protect you. Did your parents meet each other when they were quite young? I find that parents often start pushing their kids when they reach the age they were when they met or married.
i think you should continue to stay single until your over 18 you'll be able to repsond better to relationships then... but you do need to listen to your parents at the same time i would maybe have a preacher get involved to maybe give some balance to your parents thinking... if i had a daughter i would be MORE than happy if she didn't date till after i was dead... :)
You need to do what is right for you. Which, in this case, sounds like not to date. I find it a little bit curious that your parents wish for you to date. Why is this an issue for them? Whatever the case, stay true to God and to yourself. Hold off on dating.
This is why you should wait until you are mature enough to deal with dating... In a correct manner..........................
If I were you I would pray and ask the LORD to give you the wisdom you need to talk to your parents and make your decision. I'll pray for you. GOD BLESS!!
You behave wisely. Just keep waiting until God shows you who your man will be. Passions can be strong. Keep praying for strength. They are normal, but must be kept in their place. Jesus said that if your hand causes you to sin, cut it off or if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. Now, this is not a literal suggestion but consider the point - don't place yourself in a situation which can lead to sin, or be sure to remove yourself from or remove temptations which you know you may succumb to. Do not give into pressure. If you do not want to date, if you choose not to date, don't. Dating can be a dangerous game, and really is not necessary for anyone who desires and listens for the will of God. If you do find someone who you want to get to know better, spend time at one or the other's houses (WHEN PARENTS are HOME), or out with friends in public places - don't go anywhere "alone", as this breeds trouble. Also, it is better not to "date" unless you are at a time in your life when marriage is in your near future plans.
I don't think there is anything wrong with dating, but you have to make sure it's with the right person. I'd be careful if the person wasn't a Christian though, you wouldn't want the person to take you away from Christ, but on the other hand you could possibly help the person to become a Christian. Once again, God wants us to find the right person, he want's us to have a family, but you have to do it when your ready, not when your parents are. :)
I think you're on the right track. Don't date. There is absolutely no advantage to you to do so. Socialize with groups, sure. It's fun, and you could grow from it. But stay away from those one-on-one situations with boys. That's not just because of your "passions" as you put it. There's that whole emotional rollercoaster that can be thrilling, dizzying, and make you sick to your stomach...occasionally at the same time. Ultimately, you wind up going through several emotional break-ups which are nothing more than rehearsals for divorce. Divorces, my dear sister, hurt like hell. By all means enjoy the company of fellow Christians of both genders and all ages, and have a great time. But guard your heart as well as the rest of you.
You are very wise. Do not listen to your parents if their suggestion can lead you to get involved in something you don't want for yourself. Muslim girls never date because their parents make sure they never are near boys as their duty to protect their daughters from comitting sins. They take it as their responsibility to make sure that their daughters are married to the best young men they can find in society with good education and raised by decent parents. They never allowed their daughters to marry with any boy she finds in school or college without investigating his background, moral character, personality, who his parents are and what kind of people they are to make sure that boy received best moral, ethical and religious education. So that their daughters do not have problems that western women have by marrying strangers without approval of their parents. Parents keep an eye on the best boys and best girls in their community and engage as soon as possible and marry them after they have completed atleast college degree. They are not allowed to be alone any where even after they are engage because they start loving each other and may comit a sin being alone. Even hotels do not give room to young men and women unless they show proof that they are married. Entire society takes this responsibility upon them to protect girls and boys from falling victims of Satan. Parents arrange after boy and girl meat each other in public place or in their homes under family supervision. They are not allowed to force girls and boys by religion to marry them against their wishes. Some uneducated parents do marry girls against their wishes due to certain social pressure they can not resist. But such cases are not very common in middle class and rich familes. My dear stay away from boys until you finish your college, stay away from committing sin and God will reward you with the best man when you are ready for marriage. There is always one assigned to every girl from God that will come and marry you. When time comes ask God if this young man is right for you or not before you go to sleep with special prayer to God. If he will be approved by God, you will feel more love and good feelings for him. If God doesn't approve, you feelings will change and you will even forget about him. This is how all marriages are done in Muslim countries. And believe me divorce rate the lowest in world amongst Muslim families because they don't do any thing against the teachings of God when it comes to the welfare of children. Believe me I have two daughters born and raised in America. I raised them by Islamic principals. I protected them all their younger lives. I married them to the best boys I could find after they completed their college degrees. I allowed my daughters to meet the boys in our supervision. They talked to each other on phone. When they approved and expressed their desire to marry them,. then we married them and paid all expenses ourselves. My one daughter is married to a senior computer engineer and the other is married to a Physician with Fellowship degree specializing in metal diseases. They both have very happy life and raising two daughters each staying home. May God guide you to the right path of life.
My friend, you are very wise to choose not to date. To tell you the truth, I would say dating is very ungodly. How does it further your relationship with God? How does it strengthen your faith? If anything, it pushes you further away from God; if you get too caught in the relationship, your boyfriend/girlfriend takes priority over God, and God gets pushed away into the 'attic'. Also, dating very easily leads to pre-marital sex; a terrible sin that the Bible warns us to stay away from. Well, that's my advice; don't date. Again, How does it further your relationship with God? How does it strengthen your faith? Ask yourself those questions. A true has God first in their life. Many "Christians" these days have forgotten that.
Wait a while. When the right guy comes along, you'll know. Be sure he's a good Christian before going out with him. Group dates are a good idea.
if you think your ready go for it! but make sure it's someone God would approve of and make sure you set boundaries good luck!